Wife thinks I’m sleeping with the helper

Dear Pastor,

I am 75 years old and my wife is 67 years old. I am in poor health, but my wife is healthy and strong. My wife has been away since last year and she said that she does not want to come home until this COVID-19 thing has ended. I don't quarrel with her. I can cook so I prepare my own meals and I have a church sister who takes care of the washing and the cleaning for me.

My wife does not want her here, but there is no reason why I should stop her. My wife told me that she suspected a long time ago that this woman and I had something going. But that is not true. Everytime she comes here and works, I pay her. I have never put question to her. Sometimes she would bring two of her grandchildren and they are with her. She is a respectable woman.

My wife is also a hypocrite because many times when the woman is here, my wife talks to her on the phone. Sex is not even on my mind. I have gone without that for over a year since my wife went away, and this woman who is working for me is a married woman. What should I do?

R.

Dear R.,

You are not having an affair with this woman, she is only working for you. I do not understand why your wife should be accusing you of having an affair with her. What she should do is to return to Jamaica and take care of you, otherwise she should just keep quiet. You know you are not doing anything wrong, so don't allow what your wife is saying to disturb your peace.

Pastor