I’ve found the man of my dreams

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old and I have a problem. My boyfriend and I met at a party five years ago. It was love at first sight. I never thought that I would sleep with a man the first night I met him, but that is what happened to me. He did not even have to persuade me.

At the party, we danced and the closer he hugged me, the more I fell in love with him. I probably had too much to drink. So when he offered to take me to his place, I did not object because I did not have a car. I also thought that I would leave from his place and go home. But I did not go home that night. It was a Friday night and I did not have to work on the Saturday. He told me he did not have a girlfriend. I did not have a boyfriend.

When I got to his place, I showered and he gave me a shirt to put on. I slept in his underpants. I was not aware that my friends, who attended the party, were looking for me because I had turned off my phone. He also turned off his phone. All I knew is that he told me he didn't have a girlfriend and that was good enough for me. I told my friends that they shouldn't worry because I was with this guy and they were excited. They wanted to know what I did to capture him because lots of girls wanted him. I told them I gave him "good food". It was after we made love several times, he told me what his profession was. I can tell you, but I don't want it published in THE STAR.

I became scared when I found out more about this guy and I asked him if he found me cheap and he said no, he didn't. He said that his last relationship broke up because his girlfriend did not satisfy him. Since meeting this guy, things have been going very well for me. Life is rewarding. What I don't know, he teaches me. My parents like him and my friends like him. He bought me a car and he did so with cash.

My biggest challenge now is his former girlfriend. She has been calling him often and telling him she has changed and she wants him back. I asked him if he wants her back and he said she does not have a chance. I spend most of the time at his place. However, I have not given up my apartment. I am afraid to do so and this relationship does not work. This man is so handsome. I consider myself very fortunate to have him.

P.

Dear P.,

Some folks would say that you were easy to get because you went to bed with a man the first night you met him. I am sure you would say that you do not agree that you were easy to get, it just happened. I hope that you may never regret becoming so close to this man so fast.

I know regrets may come if he does not marry you. You would probably say you were the aggressor. I could only hope that this relationship would last. Your friends have told you that this man was a 'good catch' and you seem to know that very well.

This man left his former girlfriend before he met you. So, I do not have anything to say to her. If you can avoid mentioning this girl's name to him, do so. Perhaps I should give a word of cauction to you. Although you met this man at this party, make sure you do not discuss him with your girlfriends who were at the party now that both of you are in love with each other.

I wish you well.

Pastor