My man won’t keep his ‘thing’ in his pants

Dear Pastor,

I am writing this letter to seek your advice on my boyfriend who, in my opinion, is addicted to sex. I am in my mid-20s and so is he.

I have been with him for approximately four years and we have lived together for three of those years. My boyfriend is a soldier and I am currently a teacher. When I met him, he was a cheater but I was also cheating, so it didn't matter to me. He was dating this girl who he met from school days and the relationship was always on and off even when he met me. They stopped talking for two years straight, not getting back together. But since I got pregnant, I have made a change and stopped cheating and he did so, too, but just for two weeks. He always talks about wanting to change but it's not easy. This is not the life he wants to live, but it's hard. I just wait because things will change.

AS IF WE ARE NOT TOGETHER

Our child is six months old and suddenly he and this girl have got back together. He is also having sex with other girls aside from her. He makes it appear as if we are not together. He makes it seem like I know that I am the 'wife' and nobody can take my place. But this girl he met from high school keeps talking about how she loves him. He and I are always discussing marriage, future plans and goals, and I benefit from his work funds. He is not a talkative person and hates when I bring up the issue about other girls. Each time I do that, it causes problems for us. He treats me well and gives me everything I need. But my problem is that he cannot keep his thing in his pants.

Pastor, it drives me crazy at times that he does it all for me and I do the same, but he just cannot keep his thing in his pants. I do not know what to do. Should I leave him and move on, or wait and hope for a change?

Unnamed

Dear Writer,

This man is not going to change unless he has had a spiritual transformation. Both of you have cheated on each other. He told you that he stopped, but it was only for two weeks. You have a decision to make. You could either leave him or stay with him. If you stay with him, remember you would have to share him with other women. So teacher, what will be your decision? It is really up to you.

Pastor