TIMES A DAY - But boyfriend says he can’t forget his ex

Dear Pastor,

I have been seeing this guy for a little over three months and he is a good human being. We have sex four or five times per day.

But he is financially unstable, so sometimes I help him out with food and other stuff. I really have no problem because I believe a woman should spend just like a man. When we just started talking, he made it clear that he wasn't ready for a relationship but I thought it was maybe because he did not know me that well. So, I continued to see him and play the role. Things started to get serious and he met my brother and sister. My family adores him.

One day when he realised how serious the relationship was getting, he told me he couldn't be in a relationship with me because even though he has feelings for me, he still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend. He also said they do not communicate at all, but he still has feelings for her and it would be unfair to start a relationship with me knowing his mind was going back and forth.

Pastor, I really like this man and he is just perfect for me. I was going to just cut him off because I felt destroyed, but then my brother said I should give him some time. I need help, Pastor.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

This man is broke because he is unemployed. If he had a job, he would not have the time to have sex with you four to five times per day. He would have been using his time to earn a living. You have been making yourself a fool with this man. You have been feeding him and helping him in different ways. He is making a fool of you, but he had made it clear to you when you met that he was not ready to have an intimate relationship with you. You kept pushing yourself on him, so he took you on. You are a silly girl, very silly.

You said you continued to play the role. What role? The man had nothing to offer. When a girl is in love with a man, that man must bring something to the table. He had nothing to offer you except what he has in his pants.

Well, now that you know for sure that he is still in love with his ex-girlfriend and he can't get her out of his mind, I hope that you would release him and let him go. If you don't and you continue to have sex with him, he may get you pregnant.

Pastor