Ex-lover is stalking me - He has even been physically abusive

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and I have two children by two fathers. I was in a relationship with my second child's father last year but I ended it the week after Independence.

I left him because one day I went into his phone and saw how he disowned both me and his four-year-old son while talking to another girl. I felt less of myself but I took brave heart and decided that since he has always cheating, it's best that I stay to myself and focus on my little job.

He stalked me, threatened me, even hit me and I pressed charges. But the court system is so slack that it kept putting off the case, so he would laugh and say the police didn't take me seriously. As I write this, I am at home; didn't go to work. I have a large cyst that pains me at times; it cramps me. My first babyfather brought my older son to visit as he was about to leave and my second child's father grabbed me by my hair and my phone and went for his ratchet. I am in shock as all I can think about is that I almost died.

We broke off from last August and he is still abusing me in every way. I got him arrested but I don't think it's enough as he got bail and can walk free until the court date. I am depressed and I can't even eat. I am shaking. Please motivate me.

D.R.

Dear D.R.,

You have to move on. You probably should make arrangement to stay with a family member. But you should pursue the case against him. Although justice seem to be taking a slow pace, men who abused women should not be allowed to get away with their cruel actions. If they are allowed to do so, they will continue to abuse more women. This man should also be pressured by the court to support his child. So, don't give up, press on and do what is right.

Try and go back to school and pursue a good education.

Pastor