My wife can’t get enough sex

Dear Pastor,

I am a 30-year-old man, and I have been married for four years. I had a girlfriend before her and we were living together.

Both women were good friends, but after I broke up with my girlfriend, my wife told me that my ex suggested that she should become intimate with me because I am not a bad man. But she said I was a 'mama man' and that she couldn't get me to break away from my mother.

My ex told my wife that I was very boring in bed, but she never told me. She always gave me the impression that everything was all right. I have a good job and I try to take care of all the bills. She had her car payments and her student loan. I got really annoyed when she said she needed more money for the house. I knew what I was giving her was more than enough. I suspected that she was taking part of the money to send to her mother, who was taking care of her daughter. So I asked her what about the father of the child, and she told me I should not question her about him. Our relationship went downhill. Finally, she decided that she wanted to leave. I told her she was a gold digger.

I was talking to my mother about our relationship, and my mother called her and told her that she was making a mistake to believe that I shouldn't complain to her and she should remember I was her son. The woman called me a mama man. If that is what makes a man a mama man, I am proud to be one. I grew up without a father and my mother had to work hard to take care of me. Because of the way my father abandoned me, she did not go and live with any other man.

I eventually started to have a serious relationship with my ex's friend, who is now my wife. My mother advised me to marry her. They became good friends. She didn't call me a mama man, but she is saying exactly what my ex told her about me and the bedroom. When she wants me to do certain positions and I don't comply, she calls me boring. She has a lot of energy. I work in construction. I am always mixing cement, sand, and gravel, so I am tired by the time I get home. Five weeks after she had her baby, she was ready to have sex again. I told her that since she called me boring, she should ask my mother if we should have sex so soon. My mother told her that if she could handle it, she didn't see why I would object. I could not believe my mother said that.

One night I was in the bathroom and she came in and soaped me up, washed me off, and pulled me into the bedroom on to the bed. Don't you think that I have a crazy woman as my wife? I am afraid that if I don't do what she wants, she will find another man. She has already warned me that there is a possibility that that can happen. So I am asking you for your kind advice.

P.T.

Dear P.T.,

Your wife is very hot. Some folks may say too hot, but it is not unusual for some women to demand sex from their husbands soon after they have given birth.

When women question me on these things, I tell them that they should discuss such matters with their gynaecologist. I am not qualified to speak on this matter. However your mother has been playing the role of a counsellor, and she and your wife are good friends, so they talk freely. Perhaps you should really continue to encourage them to talk. I do not believe that your mother would tell you everything that they talk about.

I wonder if she has ever told your mother that you are boring in bed. Some men complain that their women are boring because they want to do one position all the time. Now your wife is complaining that you are boring because you do not seem to want to change positions either, but you have a good excuse. You say you are tired. You and your wife should communicate better. If you are tired, both of you should go to bed and have a good sleep and then try to make love before dawn or just before you leave for work. Sex early in the morning can be very enjoyable. Make time for each other. Your marriage is precious. Don't allow your relationship to deteriorate. Leave your child with your mother and go on a weekend together - both of you alone. A guest house is a good place to stay or an all-inclusive hotel. I can hear you saying you can't afford it, and the answer is yes you can, as long as you plan for it. Take care.

Pastor