My boyfriend is still living with his ex

Dear Pastor,

I would like your advice. I am 30 years old and I have been dating this man for years. He lives in the same house with a woman with whom he has children.

However, he said that was because of the children. I got pregnant by him in 2020 and from then he has been lying to me. I have forgiven him many times. He is a good man and he is very helpful to my son.

I don't know what to do. I want to leave him because I don't see why I should be with this man who is living in the same house with another woman. He calls her his ex but he is still living there and I am alone. He said that I can't prove that he is going to bed with her. Sometimes I wonder why I got myself into this mess. Every time I try to leave him, he keeps coming back and begging me to give him another chance.

N.M.

Dear N.M.,

You have not been very careful. When you became involved with this man, you knew he was living in a house with another woman. So you should not have gone into a relationship with him. He told you that he was only in the house with the woman because of his children, and to this very day he is still living in the same house. He is not making any effort to leave. Now you have got deeper in the relationship by having a child with him.

You should ask yourself whether there is any future with this man. You are 30 years old. You did not mention his age. This man continues to fool you. If you want, you can allow him to make a fool of you or you can continue to live alone and try your best to pay your own bills.

Although this man is always begging you not to leave him, you have to think about yourself and your future and do what you know is right.

Pastor