Help! My boyfriend wants to leave

Dear Pastor,

I've been in a relationship for almost two years. My partner and I love each other. He's an amazing man, I can't take that from him. We've had our ups and downs, but we have always bounced back. Normal couples argue about cheating and so on, but we have disagreements that are simple and can be dealt with.

Recently, he has told me that our relationship is over because I insinuated that his daughter is trying to instigate things, or make trouble where there is none. His daughter and I aren't on talking terms because she betrayed her father a few months ago, and ended up dragging me in it as well. The Wi-Fi is here and is in my name, yet all of a sudden she told him it's not working, hence the reason I said what I said.

He, himself, wasn't on talking terms with her until recently. He is upset and wants to end the relationship all because of what I said. He told me that my ways and my mindset is what's breaking us up. I keep telling him that I'm human and we have flaws and that he is not perfect, either. We have no major issues at all, just these minor things and his stubbornness.

I'm asking you to give me some fatherly advice. I'm confused. Please keep us in your prayers. This too shall pass. God bless you. Keep up the good work you're doing.

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Dear Writer,

I can always know when a woman loves a man, and I see that both of you love each other. This man's daughter seems to be living at the house, and you believe that she is part of the problem why you and your man argue from time to time. Perhaps you do not believe that she likes you, and that you and her father would get along much better if she were not around.

You have not said in what way this man's daughter betrayed him. However, try not to get involved in any argument that this girl and her father has. Evidently, whatever she told her father about you, he believed her, otherwise he would not have suggested that both of you should go your separate ways. Even if this girl is not telling the truth, her father has sided with her. He will have to recognise, on his own, that his daughter does not always speak the truth.

Try your very best not to have unnecessary arguments with your man. You can calmly suggest to him that you believe the time has come for both of you to meet with a family counsellor to discuss family matters. Always remember that it is not wise to live in concubinage, and the years will go by very fast. So you need to have this man commit himself in the relationship, so that you do not waste your time with him. If he is not willing to go for counselling sessions, that would be an indication that he does not cherish you.

Pastor