Husband can’t get enough sex from me

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you about a problem. I am 21 years old and I got married one year ago. My husband is 24.

Before we got married, I told my husband that I did not want to get pregnant soon after our wedding. But unfortunately, I became pregnant while we were on our honeymoon. We checked into the hotel the Saturday night and it rained all night. t was still raining the Sunday morning. We ordered breakfast and went back to bed. All we were able to do was to make love. We then ordered room service, and so there was no need to wear clothes. All we had time for was to shower and go under the sheets and have sex.

I told my husband that we had enough sex for a month. We left Ocho Rios in the rain and travelled back to Kingston in the rain. By the time we got home, it was more sex. So when my period did not come, I knew my husband had got me pregnant. I didn't have to go to the doctor for him to confirm whether or not I got pregnant. So the plan that we had of not having a child soon after we were married went through the window. Now, I am pregnant again. This time I am carrying a girl. My husband is so proud of our son. He says that no one can accuse him of 'firing blanks'. We don't want to have any more children; two is more than enough. But sometimes my husband behaves as if he would want to get me pregnant again. I told him that he would have to rape me, but I would not consent to having another child.

When my husband wants to have his way with me, he is so sweet. He calls me endearing names. Sometimes when he makes love to me, I cannot resist him; I just yield to him. It is like I turn into butter. I complained to his mother and she told me that his father was just like that, so I should just enjoy him because the day may come when he might not be able to manage. Right now he is so good at what he does; I am enjoying him. I know when he is about to ejaculate, so I try to push him off, but all that does is to give me more work because I have to turn around and wash the sheets.

M.F.

Dear M.F.,

Your husband and you seem to have a good relationship, so enjoy each other. Your husband is practising the withdrawal method.

He does not want to discharge in you. But you are complaining about him dirtying up the sheets. Let me ask you this question: isn't it easier for you to wash the sheets than to carry another pregnancy for nine months and then maintain that child? Come on; tell me the truth. Which is better, and cheaper? All I wish to say to you is, enjoy your husband. Find ways of protecting yourself from pregnancy. There are so many methods to prevent yourself from getting pregnant.

Go and talk to your doctor. I wish your husband and you well.

Pastor