Husband wants me to wear less clothes in bed

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 years old and my husband is 32. There are times when he tells me that I am boring. I know I am not boring. But he likes to know how on a very hot night, I come to bed in long nighties. That is the way I grew up. I told him that I am afraid that something may go wrong with me if I go to bed without clothes. I may become ill. My husband does not sleep in clothes. I try to please him, but I don't do so all the time.

I cannot see myself not going to bed all the time without wearing a nightie. Blue is my favourite colour, but he prefers if I am wearing nothing at all. Sometimes the both of us are in the kitchen naked. Sometimes he buys me silk underwear; they are just strings. He likes us to do quickies, and gets me in the mood for him soon after we hit the bed. I have been learning to spend time with him and not to allow him to feel bored. Do you think that this man is too young for me? Sometimes I feel so very tired and can hardly keep up with him.

E.J.

Dear E.J.,

You are 40 years old; learn to have sexy conversations with your husband. You are not too old for him.

Both of you should buy good books and learn how to spice up your relationship. You should know that it is not wise to be going to bed with your husband in these long nighties, regardless of how hot the evenings might be. You have to learn how to turn on your husband and how to spice up things in the bedroom.

Pastor