I kissed my sister!

I kissed

my sister!

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 and I am living with my adopted parents. I don?t know my mother or father. My adopted parents grew me and sent me to school and now I have a good job. One day while I was at work a man showed up and asked for me. He told me that he is my father but when my mother was pregnant she disappeared and he could not find her, so he did not know where I was. I asked him how he found out where I am working and he told me that he has a daughter and she told him that she met a guy and how the guy resembled him and she knows where the guy was working. That guy happened to be me and it is true. The girl he was talking about is someone I like but it was only a friendship and it did not develop into anything. I told my foster parents of the development and they are encouraging me to do a DNA test if I like the girl but I hate the man who claims to be my father so much. Things would change if I could know my mother but I never get to know her I could do without her because I am happy to have my adopted parents. These people who grew me up said a woman just offered me to them and they never saw her again. I asked the man who claimed that he is my father what did he do to try to find my mother and he said he went to the house where she used to live and nobody knew where she went. I can?t get this girl out of my mind. We kissed but we did not go all the way. I need your advice.

R.S

Dear R.S.,

I am glad you are very happy with the people who raised you from the time you were a baby. They have done their very best. They had no reason to search for your biological mother and perhaps your mother was quite happy to give you away because she probably felt that she would not have been able to give you the love and support you would have needed. This man who have now showed up and is claiming to be your father perhaps didn?t do enough to find your mother. He said he went to the house where your mother lived and nobody knew where she went. I wonder how often he went there. You are quite correct in not paying much attention to what he said. On the other hand, you do not want to have an intimate relationship with this girl who could really be your sister. Therefore you should follow the advice of your adopted parents and do a DNA test not only between this young woman and yourself but also you should include the man. It is important that you know the truth and even if you would have nothing to do with this man, just to have the knowledge that he is your biological father would help you. This young lady might be disappointed to know that both of you would have to cease any type of sexual contact but both of you could be the best of friends. I would like to hear from you again.

Pastor