He cheated twice, should I take him back?

Dear Pastor,

I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. During this period he cheated on me twice, both times with two of his exes. I forgave him, but I am confused as to whether I should continue with him. He says he loves me and that he is sorry and wants us to work things out. As much as I love him, I feel that he is not doing enough for me. When it comes to money, he claims he doesn't have it to give because he is going to school. He is on his own but he does work. He gave me a little money once, but that was it.

He shows effort and we get along just fine. He is a private person, but, overall, we have good chemistry and I am very comfortable when I am around him. I am frustrated but find it hard to leave totally. I love him and I don't want to give up on our relationship. Right now, he is willing to try again, but I am very hesitant even though we communicate and see each other. I constantly have doubts and keep pushing him away. I am 20, he is 25.

Confused

Dear Confused,

There is no guarantee that this guy would not cheat again. You know that he cheated twice, but that's what you know - it could have been more. He has not taken the relationship with you seriously. You will have to make up your mind either to share him with other women or leave him. You said that you find it hard to leave him, although you are hurting. He claims he does not have any money, but at the same time he can find money to sport with other women. He is making a fool of you, but the decision to go or stay is totally up to you.

Pastor