I was beaten for having sex

Dear Pastor,

I don't believe that beating a 15-year-old for having sex can make her stop if sex is what she really needs. I would like to tell you something about myself. When I was 15, I was having sex, and I used to get some beatings with two-by-four boards from both my parents and my big brother and sister anytime they saw me with my boyfriend. Sometimes, all three times for the week I got beaten. But when the beating cooled off and I started to remember my boyfriend and the sex, I couldn't wait to see him again, so I just hid from them and went and had sex. To this day, we are still together, and we have one child together, and the child is six. We are now married and going strong because the more I got beaten, is the more I loved my man and the sex.

A.G.

Dear A.G.,

Thanks for sharing your personal experiences with my readers. I hope that what you have written will help to show parents that this sort of punishment will not prevent young children from having sex. Your parents abused you and also encouraged your older siblings to join in and abuse you. Such abuse did you no good. Beating does not knock sex out of a person's head or mind. You needed to be counselled, but your parents did not understand that.

I am glad that you are married and I wish you well. Take good care of your child, and I pray that you and your husband will have many happy years together.

Pastor