Found nude pictures on my husband’s phone

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 years old and my husband is 35. We have been married for three years. We have a good life together.

I have three children; one with my husband and two from a previous relationship. My husband is a hard worker. He knows the father of my children and he allows them to go and visit him whenever he wants to see them. Sometimes he takes them to the gate himself, or their father can pick them up and bring them back home at a reasonable time. I don't have to fear.

But I am concerned about what I saw recently. I saw nude pictures of a girl when I asked my husband to allow me to use his phone. These pictures just popped up from nowhere. My husband is trying to convince me that he does not know the girl. I do not intend to leave my husband over these pictures, but I know he is not telling me the truth. I asked him if he is dissatisfied with me and he said no. I have tried to please my husband in every way. What is bothering me is that this girl appears to be much younger than I am. I can see my husband having a fling with this type of woman.

I only have one sister, and she told me that I should be very careful. What would my husband be looking for in this young girl? We do not intend to have more children; our plan is to educate these three. I hope to do my master's degree, and so does my husband. It is just a matter of time. But I feel so shocked and discouraged, because my husband is not speaking the truth. Please give me your advice.

H.M.

Dear H.M.,

I don't want to mislead you, but I would say don't hold this against your husband.

He said that he does not know the person whose pictures you saw in his phone. Maybe I am stupid or not properly informed, but for peace in your house with your husband, have them deleted and move on. Don't mention them again to him. It is better for him to get the impression that you have forgiven him and you have forgot everything about them. It is better for your sister to believe that you don't have any sense, and that you trust your husband wholeheartedly.

Your husband and you get along very well. However, bad things can happen in a good relationship. If they are not handled the right way, the relationship can be destroyed. Is it possible another girl who is jealous of your relationship sent him these pictures? Some women do crazy things, you know, especially when they need to have a man.

I hope everything will go well with your husband and your in the future. Don't allow nude pictures to destroy it.

Pastor