I had sex with my brother for money!

Dear Pastor,

I am 20. I have a brother who is 10 years older. When I was a teenager, he used to sexually molest me. When it first started, I told him I would tell, but after a while I started to offer myself to him and asked him for money to buy things that I liked. We kept that as a secret between both of us. Nobody suspected that we were having sex.

One day, when I was 17, I came out of my room in a pair of skimpy panties. My brother saw me and my mother said, "Don't you know that your brother is here? Why are you coming out in the hall like that?" I didn't answer.

My brother became a Christian. We have stopped having sex a long time now. I have a boyfriend and he asked me if I am sexually active and I told him no. He wants to know how I lost my virginity. I told him I lost it by having sex. He wants to know who the lucky guy who took my virginity was. I can't tell him that.

My brother and I have remained very close. He told me that he is sorry for having sex with me. I have forgiven him, but I don't know how to handle the sex questions from my boyfriend.

T.E.

Dear T.E.,

You ought not to tell your boyfriend that you had sex with your brother. It would not do the relationship that you are having with him any good. Tell him that you are not prepared to embarrass him by asking him to tell you everything about his past.

The past is gone. Tell him that a gentleman does not insist that his girlfriend tells him all and that you are prepared to end the relationship with him if he continues to ask you embarrassing questions.

Pastor