Troublesome babymother

Dear Pastor,

This is the second time I am writing to you. The first time I wrote to you I was not married. Now I am married. My husband is a hard worker. We have one child together. My husband is 55 years old and I am 31. He had two other children from a previous relationship. This girl will not leave him alone. She calls him about everything. Sometimes he is on the phone for hours. She behaves as if he is her lover. She is not moving on.

One night I took the phone from my husband and I told her not to call back and she said what she can give him I can't give him. I asked my husband what was that and he did not know. I told him I knew it must be the bad food that she was giving him. Pastor, I am in a very good job. I did not run after this man. He met me in church. I was not a virgin but I felt like one. When we first had sex he asked me whether I was lying about not being a virgin. What can this girl have that I don't have?

My husband supports the children. She does not want them to spend any time with him unless he comes to the house and I don't want him to go there. This house that we are living in belongs to my husband. I asked him if he wants me to leave so that she can come back to him and I would try and get a house through NHT. I am tired of this woman. She is from the pit of hell.

S.H

Dear S.H.,

I am sure when you decided to marry a much older man you thought that you would have been very happy and no one was going to harass you. You were not thinking that harassment would come and that it would come from the mother of your husband's children. She has become your worst nightmare. You ought not to go toe-to-toe with her. Your husband has to deal with her and remind her that he chose you over her and that he is quite willing to talk to her about the welfare of his children.

I hope you understand that he will always have to talk to her about the children. He cannot however be talking to her for hours about the children and he should not allow her to call him after certain hours in the evening unless there is an emergency. However, whenever she is on the line with him, try not to get involved in their conversation. This young woman seems to be very aggressive, perhaps illiterate. You have to behave as a wife and not lower your standards.

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