My children don't want me to remarry

Dear Pastor,

It has been one year since I have returned to Jamaica. I am glad to be back in my homeland. Everybody thinks that I have money. Some call me mad, some call me mean. I've lived in England for many years. I lost my wife and now I am home. I have found a woman; she has her own place and I have mine. She comes and goes. She has grown children and I have grown children, too. We talk about getting married. I do not want to work anymore and I don't want to go back to England. The children are concerned about me. They do not want me to get married again. They want me to come back to England. I don't want to leave my girlfriend. My son asked me, "Daddy, why you want to get married again?" I told him that I married his mother for pleasure and that is the reason why I would marry again. He said he thought I got married because we wanted to raise a family. I said, "Son, that was a part of the deal."

This woman is seven years younger than I am, so I want to enjoy life with her. Pastor, what do you say?

A.L.

Dear A.L.,

You did not say how old you are neither did you say the age of this woman, but by the content of your letter this lady and you are retirees. If you feel that both of you are in love, go and sit with a family counsellor and talk over these love matters. Don't totally ignore your children, but remind them that they should not try to control you. The final decision is yours. Things might appear lovely right now with this woman, but you can never tell what the future holds. I wish you well.

Pastor