Desperate to find the perfect man

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you because I need your advice and help. I am 25 years old and I have been reading your column for years.

I am a college student going into my fourth year of studies. I am also a single mother. I have been single for quite awhile now and feeling very lonely. I don't want to be the kind of girl who runs around with different types of men. I just want to get married and settle with that one person. I am a Christian. I may not be perfect, but I am trying my best to live for Christ.

I was wondering if you could help me in finding a match. Just to let you know, I am scared and mindful when it comes to having a partner, especially because of my son. I want a partner who will love him as his own and not abuse him in any way. Also, he should love God, be protective, supportive and family-oriented. My description of a perfect match would be someone older than I am, maybe in his 30s to 40s, tall, dark and handsome. He must be masculine, and someone who is decent, hard-working, driven by his goals, adventurous and open-minded.

I anticipate your response.

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Dear Writer,

I am always reluctant in publishing letters from readers who reach out to me asking me whether I can assist them in finding partners.

Whenever these types of letters are published, many people respond. Some do not tell the truth. Many fail to give much information about themselves. Some only say that they would like the person who is seeking a partner to call or text them. On the other hand, there are those who give certain information about themselves, but they are not speaking the truth.

Some years ago, a certain gentleman appealed to me to help him find a partner. The man behaved as if he was an angel directly from God. A young lady responded; she was a virgin. She discussed the matter with her dad and he encouraged her to meet with the man. She came from a rural parish and this man went to bed with her after he convinced her that she did not have to go back home that evening. He promised her silver and gold and much more. He also promised to take her to America, and she believed him. But not long after, the young woman called me and told me that he was a terrible liar and she regretted meeting him.

On the Dear Pastor Show, men have lied to me and women have responded. Some of the women found out very early that the men were lying. One young lady told the gentleman to meet her in Half-Way Tree. The girl was very smart and she told him, "We are not far away from 'Dear Pastor', so let's go and see him." They called me on the phone and came by to see me. He wanted to take the young woman to his home, but she refused. Then he told her how much money he had, but he was lying. He wanted money from her, so she found out that he was a scammer. I can go on by mentioning others. So I am very reluctant in trying to find partners for listeners and writers.

I believe that you are sincere. You have asked me not to publish your initials, but let me tell you that there are so many men who would even join the church you attend and pretend like they are honest men, but they are not. You cannot be careless. You have good intentions, but the only thing these men want to do is to get under your skirt and make a fool of you. I am not implying that all men are like that, but you will have to be very careful and not give away yourself. I will not give anybody any information about you.

I will join you in prayer and ask God to find a good man for you. Those who contact me should know that I will not divulge anything about you. God bless you.

Pastor