‘She’ll eat you out!’ - Brother wants me to dump Kingston girl

Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old man. I am from the rural area, but I came to Kingston and I have been working in a supermarket. I met a girl at my workplace. She works on the floor like me, but she also does cashiering. I love this girl very much, but she is older than I me, and she has a child.

I stay at my brother's place, where lives with his woman. This girl came to visit me one day when I was not feeling well and did not go to work. My brother's girlfriend told my brother that this girl was at the house and my brother warned me about her. He told me that I should be careful because these Kingston girls don't keep one man. He said that is the reason why he went outside of Kingston to find a good woman.

I love this girl. My brother does not know that she has a child. She hasn't done me anything wrong, so I do not see the reason I should leave her. Since we are together, we talked about saving our money and building life together. Her child lives with his father. I told my mother what my brother said and she told me that if I love the girl, I should not listen to my brother. She says that if my brother does not want her to visit me at all, I should find a place and move out of my brother's house.

I told my mother that the young woman is older than myself and my mother reminded me that she is older than my father. I told my brother that I am planning to leave his house and he asked me why and I told him that I want to live with my girlfriend. However, he said that the young woman is going to eat me out. I don't see why she would eat me out because she is earning more than I do. She has been working at the supermarket before me and she is my senior there. Do you think I should allow my brother to break up our relationship?

M.N.

Dear M.N.,

You are a young man, and your brother should not judge your girlfriend because she was born in Kingston. Many people have asked me if I can get helpers for them and they told me that they did not want anyone from Kingston, they prefer to have helpers who are from rural Jamaica. They believe that girls who are from rural Jamaica are more loyal and hardworking.

I have often said that the best helper I ever had was from Kingston. She was hardworking, reliable, and faithful. Even after she became pregnant, she approached me to ask whether she should continue working or when she should leave. I encouraged her to keep working as long as she felt capable. My wife and I will never forget her dedication. She worked until the day she informed us she could no longer manage, and we assured her it was perfectly fine.

This idea that Kingston girls are not good women is pure nonsense.

If that is the reason why your brother doesn't want you to have a relationship with your girlfriend he is talking nonsensical nonsense. You are old enough to make your own decision. Your mother should be able to give you some guidance. Make sure you do not withhold information from her. I wish this girl and you the very best in life.

Pastor