Girl tricked me into thinking she was pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I hope you can give me some advice. I fell in love with a young lady two years ago and we were getting along very well.

One day she told me that she was pregnant, but she did not want to keep the child. She was 20 and I was 40. She explained to me that she could not carry the child because she was training to be a nurse. I was reluctant in giving her money to terminate the pregnancy. She begged me and said she would do anything I wanted if I would give her the money. I consider abortion to be murder, but because I loved her so much and I did not want to stand in her way of becoming a nurse, I gave her the money. I had my doubts that she was talking the truth, so I asked her if I could talk to the doctor. She said no because that would get him in trouble. I withdrew the money from my account. It was a lot of money.

She did the abortion and when I wanted to see her on the weekend, she said that I must give her body enough time to heal, so I agreed. I saw one of her friends that Saturday and she said that she thought I had gone with my girlfriend. I asked her where she expected me to go. She told me that my girlfriend had gone with some other people to spend a weekend at a resort. I realised that this girl tricked me. She wanted money to go on this trip and that is why she told me a lie about being pregnant, and why she could not come and visit me.

This wicked girl knows how hard I have to work. She wanted my money, so she lied to me. My feelings for her changed. I did not hear from her until the following Wednesday. I asked her how she was feeling and she said she was fine. So I asked her how her trip went, but she did not answer. I told her all I wanted from her is the money I gave to her to have the abortion; the phone went dead. We did not talk to each other for about three weeks, but when she called me, I told her I wanted my money, and I was going to do something very bad to her unless she returned it.

This girl went on the north coast with another man, and even as I write this letter, I can't get over it because I know I have treated her very well. I am going to carry out my threat if I don't get my money from her very soon.

M.T.

Dear M.T.,

I hope that you would not carry out your threats. Allow this young girl to keep the money. She will meet her Waterloo.

She is a schemer. She is not the only girl who has lied to men about being pregnant and she has someone who would abort the child. A young lady sat in my office and told me how she tricked her boyfriend, who is a police officer. She told him that she was pregnant and did not want to carry the pregnancy. She said she went to a particular place and was told how much it would cost. The police officer believed her and drove her to the doctor's office. He sat in his vehicle and saw when she went in and spoke to the receptionist, who led her into another office; then he drove away. This girl had it all planned. She got the money and put it in her pocket. She was not pregnant. But to this day that police officer felt that he had got her pregnant and had a moral obligation to give her money to terminate the pregnancy. She laughed as she related the story to me.

Sir, many of these girls are schemers and the best way for a man to safeguard himself is to always wear a condom. You believed your 20-year-old girlfriend because you were having sex with her without protection. You were tricked. So I say to you, regardless of how much money you gave her, let her go with it; don't get yourself into trouble. There are good women in this world, very good women. Try and find one and settle down with her.

Pastor