Angry that my dad got his secretary pregnant

Dear Pastor,

My mind is taken up with work. It has been very hard on me. In addition, my father and mother are not getting along well.

They are threatening each other every day these days. My father is now 50 years old and he has suddenly found a young girl. He is telling my mother that he is prepared to trade her in for his sexy secretary. My mother has been faithful to this man. She has worked very hard and helped him to build a business.

My father bought this girl an apartment. He got this girl pregnant and insisted that she should carry the pregnancy. I have three brothers and two sisters, and we are all aware that my father was responsible for getting this girl pregnant. But he does not care. He said he is a church man but when we told our father that it doesn't look good for him to be treating our mother that way, he told us that Solomon was the wisest man and he had multiple lovers. So if my mother can't tolerate him, she should move on. We think that something has gone wrong with our father.

All of us have lost respect for him, but his girlfriend loves him. They go out together often. My mother told him that he will run out of steam, so he can continue to live his life. She has stopped having sex with him. So he uses that as an excuse to have this young girl travelling up and down with him. This girl is only 25 years old and my father is 50.

L.E.

Dear L.E.,

Don't forget that your father will always be your father. But at the same time, he should not be disrespectful to your mother.

The attitude from your mother is right. He will run out of steam. This young girl should go out and get herself a job instead of relying on your father for everything. Your father has money and lots of it too. But he should put his money to better use. Your mother has stopped having sexual intercourse with him out of fear that he may pass on an STI to her. He will continue to use what she is doing as a reason to continue playing around, but she ought to continue to protect herself.

But I say again, remember that this man is your father and you should continue to show him respect.

Pastor