‘Say no to dildos’ - Single Christians urged to avoid sex toys

Renowned family and marriage counsellor Reverend Carla Dunbar is imploring single Christians not to turn to toys to quench their sexual thirsts.

"I introduced it [sex toys] into the church years ago, but I sell to married couples only. While it can be used to enhance the sexual fun that a couple can have, I don't believe that singles should utilise it for the purpose of the sacredness and the purity of sex which is meant to be between two persons," Dunbar said.

"It also creates challenges later on when you decide to get into a relationship because it is going to be very hard for the man or woman to please you, and I say man because there are fake vaginas as well. Later on, when your partner can't find your 'G' or 'P' spot, it is going to cause a deficiency in the relationship," she added.

On the weekend, a female minister of religion sent tongues wagging when she revealed that she owned a vibrator after she got baptised. The pastor said she was convinced that the use of the toy amounted to the commission of a sin, so she decided to get rid of the toy.

"I had to take it and throw it in the garbage. When I bought it, I said 'God, this is not a man so I don't have to ask forgiveness for this, Lord God. This is just a little vibrator'. But the vibrator start act better than any man and mi did get some nice man, mi get man weh bad inna bed. But the vibrator was badda dan the man dem, so I had was to throw it out. So people, I am telling you now so that if you hear anything, you can say pastor did already tell yuh that she did have a little vibrator. That is my sin," the pastor said during her sermon.

Dunbar, while steering clear of the minister's testimony, said it is important for single Christians engage in more wholesome activities.

"While I can't tell people the way to go, if you ask me for advice, I am going to tell you that sex toy isn't the way to go. The Bible tells you that single people must take some time while dem single and focus on God. Whenever you do that, God will help you to manage the sexuality that he gives you. Remember, is God make sex, so it is nice and wonderful. But it must not be used in a manner that dishonours God," she said.

Dunbar told THE STAR that even though sexual arousal was created by God, masturbation and the use of toys should not be done by singles.

"We have to learn self-control because sex is not just a physical act, but a spiritual act, because we are body, soul and spirit. Especially for a woman, we can't just have sex with anyone and it blows out of our mind the next day. It is something that stays with us. So if yuh nuh have no man, you have to learn to practise self-control," she said.