He doesn't want marriage

He doesn?t want marriage

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 and unmarried but in a stable relationship. This has been going on for the last four years. The man with whom I am having this relationship takes me out on vacation with all expenses paid. He is 50 and a divorcee but he is not making any commitment to me. There are other guys who like me but I have to be turning them down because of this man.

I live in a townhouse. It is owned by him and he pays all the bills. Everybody in the complex knows that he comes to see me. My problem is that I would love to get married but why can?t this man make a commitment to me that we would get married? His ex-wife is no problem to me. I don?t want to take the chance to tell him that I think we should end our relationship because I know he can get any woman with a snap of his finger. I am in a good job and because of him I have been able to save a substantial amount of money. Please help me.

S.L.

Dear S.L.,

You are allowing fear to get the better of you. I have observed that you did not say that you love this man . Perhaps this man is being very cautious because he has travelled the road of marriage before, so he is not in a hurry to get married again. Perhaps he doesn?t have any intention of getting married again. However, he is happy to have a girlfriend who can meet his sexual needs and be his companion from time to time. You are afraid to lose the benefits this relationship provides for you. You enjoy the trips that you can take with him. If you are tired of the type of life that you are living, then you need to tell him. And if he does not agree to marry you, you should be willing to pack up and move out of his house Then you would not be able to say that this man is standing in your way of getting married.

Pastor