I want to divorce my wife!

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 and the father of two daughters and one son. My wife and I got married after we had all the children. I have done everything to make my wife happy, but she has 'red eye' and she raised the girls the same way.

I suspected that my wife was having an affair and I asked the girls about it. They both told me that it is true. I was away working for three months and my wife brought one of her lovers to the our home. This thing has been going on for a long time the children told me. My wife told them the man was her cousin and they believed her until they got older and she was not able to explain how they were cousins. I love my wife, but I know she does not love me.

Once she used to deny that this man and her were having an affair. Now whenever I talk about him she does not answer. I have moved out of the bedroom. I don't have sex with her anymore. How can I get a divorce? My wife has 'white liver'. If we have sex two or three times for the week, she wants more.

P.K.

Dear P.K.,

You said that you have not been able to satisfy your wife and that may be the reason she is cheating. You know of one man, but perhaps there were others. I don't think that your wife could be proud of herself. However, she seems not to care how you feel.

My friend, don't get yourself into trouble. Perhaps you can ask your wife to go with you for counselling. It does not appear as if she loves you. Perhaps you should make preparations to end this marriage. I hate to say that, but it's something to

consider. Take comfort in the thought that you have done your best to support your wife and your children.

Pastor