Using one girl’s money to date another

Dear Pastor,

I often read your column. It is the first thing I turn to in the newspaper. I don't read it until I have had my shower and eaten, so that I can enjoy the column.

I have two girlfriends and I love the both of them. One of them lives in my parish and the other lives far away. I know it is not right, but I don't want to give up any one of them.

Both of them are working. One of them is attending university. She has introduced me to her parents. But I don't know the parents of the other girl. The one who is attending university has never had sex with me.

She said that she will not give herself to me until we are married and I told her that I can't marry 'puss in bag'. She is prettier than the other girl.

I don't know how long I can hold out. Sometimes when we go out, she doesn't even want me to hold her hand and she questions me about everything.

At present, I am not working, but the other girl helps me out with pocket money. I don't want my other girl who is at university to know that sometimes I am catching hell.

Whenever we go out, it is the other girl's money I am using to pay for taxi fare. I feel that any time she gives me the chance to have sex with her, I will do it and then leave her.

G.A

Dear G.A,

You are a worthless and good-for-nothing young man. Your mind is dirty. You don't wish the young woman who is attending university any good. You say that you love her but you don't. Your desire is only to have sex with her. You don't respect her at all.

This young woman doesn't trust you and you don't respect her. You are upset because she has not allowed you to have sex with her.

But you are hoping that she would give you a chance to go to bed with her and then you will punish her by ending the relationship with her. I hope that she will kick you out of her life before you hurt her.

You say you love her, but that is not true. You are only lusting after her. Please leave the good young woman alone. Go and get yourself a job and stop taking money from the other woman.

Good men don't live off women unless they are married, or they have lost their job and they are in a committed relationship, or they are ill and unable to work. You are a shameless young man and you are proud of it. Shame on you.

Pastor