Married friend is trying to sleep with me

Dear Pastor,

I am 62 years old and I have lost my husband. I have a male visitor. He comes around very often, but he wants to sleep over and I am a Christian.

I told him that I do not want him in my house after 9 p.m. Sometimes I have to remind him when the time comes. Sometimes he sits in the living room watching television with me. He then asks me if he can take a nap because he is very tired. He is 65 years old and he does not drive.

Last week our friendship almost came to an end because he told me that he has feelings for me and I am behaving as a woman whose heart is like stone. This man is still married. But his wife and he are separated. I told him he should go back to his wife. He said he will never go back to her. When he insisted that I should spend some time with him, on my bed, I told him that he should try and get home and get some rest. So I called a taxi to take him home. He did not only describe me as stone, but he said I am also cold.

This man does not have anything to offer me. But even if he had something to offer, I wouldn't want anything from him. I have my own money and I am still working. How can I get rid of this man? He is so annoying and all he talks about is politics and sex.

H.A.

Dear H.A.,

You are a grown woman. You do not have to entertain this man in your house.

Evidently, he is trying his best to push himself on to you. Tell him not to come to your house unless you invite him. He is frustrated because you are not allowing him to have his way with you. You should also tell him that if he does not know how to conduct himself, you will not even allow him to sit in the living room to watch television. Don't allow this man to insult you in your own house.

Pastor