Have yourself a merry little Christmas

The decorations are up, including the tree, the weather is cooler, old friends are calling, invitations to parties are arriving - yes, it's Christmas. For many couples, the festive season is not very sexy because of all the people and activities happening around them. Christmas is not a reason that is acceptable to allow your intimacy levels to drop. There are things that you can do as a couple, even though you are catching up with the family, attending the parties, preparing all the food and overall enjoying the holidays. Here are some things that you can do to keep some sexy in your Christmas:

Have a secret sexy code

While you are at another boring Christmas party and you are ready to leave, instead of suffering through the boredom, create a code that only you and your partner know the meaning. Your code can be something like, "I just love how your skin glows," which really means, "Let's get out of here, and have some sexy, naked fun." Get creative with your code and have fun with it.

Sneak away for a Christmas quickie

While your family members are in the kitchen fighting over food and other things, sneak away and enjoy a sexy Christmas quickie. You can do it in another room or jump in your car and get away from them altogether. After your quickie, you can return energised and ready to enjoy the rest of your Christmas holidays with the

family, knowing you are sharing a sexy secret.

Use the Christmas cake and wine in your foreplay

Christmas cake and wine are staples during the holiday season, but you are not limited to only enjoying them at the dinner table. Save some for foreplay. Don't worry about plates or other utensils, your body can be the platter. Don't be afraid of making a mess, you can always use your tongue and clean it up after.

Make use of the Mistletoe

Mistletoe is usually a part of the American Christmas, but you can also follow the tradition here. The rules are simple, if a couple is caught under the mistletoe, they have to share a kiss. So pucker up and enjoy!

Send sexy Christmas text messages to each other

While you are away from each other, you can keep the excitement going by sending sexy messages to each other. You can get creative with it by adding Christmas items to it. For example, take a photo wearing a Christmas hat and a smile. Gentlemen, the hat does not have to be on your 'big' head.

For many persons Christmas is just another day, and there is not any real fanfare or hoopla about it. For others, it's the best time of the year. Whatever the season means to you, or whether you choose to participate in the festivities, Christmas is a time that brings out the best in many persons. So have yourself a sexy little Christmas and have some fun with it.

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Question

Dear Dr Sexy-Ann,

I have been in a relationship for three years. Next year gonna be four years. The person is in New York, but comes to Jamaica every year to see me. We kiss, play and go on romantic dates and everything. Moral of the story is for the three years we never had sex, but we are madly in love. Is that a good thing. I need some advice.

Ali, Portmore

Dear Ali,

It is clear you are benefitting from the good side of being in a long distance relationship, which is you get to know the person outside of sex. This is a good place to start because you

really get to communicate and work on that part of your relationship before it gets physical. After three years, you should now be asking yourself, "What do I ultimately want with this person?." Sounds to me like you are in it for the long haul, so perhaps this is something that you can discuss with each other. Whatever your decision is from that point will determine where your relationship goes. Usually, if a long distance relationship goes on for an extended period without any specific plans, it fizzles, so it may be time for you and your partner to start making some decisions.

Good luck,

Dr Sexy-Ann