I am impotent, should I still seek a woman?

Dear Pastor,

I am a 55-year-old man who has lost his nature. I have been to the doctor but the problem still exists. I find it very difficult to approach women for friendship. I was married for 25 years but my wife died. I am accustomed to having a woman in my life. Since I have lost my nature I won't be able to get or maintain an erection. Finding a partner is most difficult. I do enjoy the energy, the togetherness, caressing, hugging and the feeling females give to a man. Because I won't be able to penetrate her sexually, my feelings for intimacy has been compromised. Pastor, what do you think I should do? Should I keep trying for a lady or, as they say in boxing, hang up my gloves? If by any miracle any lady asks for my name, please pass it on to her.

A.D

Dear A.D.,

You said that you have been to a doctor but you did not say what type and what the doctor told you. I would suggest that you go to an urologist. Often it is not one specific thing that causes a man to become impotent. There are many contributing factors. Below you will find some of them.

Physical causes: Heart disease, clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis), high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, obesity, metabolic syndrome - a condition involving increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist and high cholesterol, Parkinson's disease, tobacco use, alcoholism and other forms of substance abuse, sleep

disorders.

Psychological causes: Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions, stress, relationship problems due to stress, poor communication or other concerns.

Do not take them lightly. Discuss them with your urologist.

Pastor