My brother tried to have sex with me

Dear Pastor,

I am 16 years old and I am having a problem. you are the only one I can tell it to because I can't tell anyone who is in the family. I live with my father and stepmother. My father has two more children, but they do not live with us. My father got married to my step-mother four years ago. He is a very nice dad. One of his sons (my brother) came to spend holiday with us. He is one year older than I am. They are two beds in my room. I didn't think anything about it because he is my

brother.

While I was sleeping my brother came on the bed. I knew he was there but I fell asleep again; but, later on, I felt him sucking my breasts. I said to him, "Why are you doing that?" and he did not answer. I know I was wrong to allow him to continue, but it was feeling so good. He tried to fondle me but I told him no. After a while, I told him that I wanted to sleep so he should go back to his bed. I didn't tell anybody anything. The following day I went to school and he went away, but came back in the evening. Before I went to bed, I told him that I never had sex and he is my brother, so we can't have sex. I asked him if he ever had sex and he said yes. I told him if he wants to have sex, he should go to his girlfriend. Please, don't condemn me, pastor. I know I can't tell my dad what happened, but I am getting to love my brother more. If we were not brother and sister I would have sex with him.

N.N.

Dear N.N.,

You should not sleep in the same room with your brother; and that night when you realised that he was in your bed, you should have objected strongly. He started to play with you by sucking your breasts. You said you enjoyed it and that is why you allowed him to continue. You made a mistake by allowing him to toy with your body. The good thing that you did was to object to him trying to have sex with you. You did not tell your father or stepmother what happened. You should have at least told your father that he must not allow your brother to sleep in the same room with you. I am sure he is intelligent enough to figure out that something might have happened. If he should question you on the matter, you could say that he is a boy and you are a girl and you don't feel comfortable with him in the room, and you would also prefer to have your privacy. Your brother is the type who would force you to have sex with him, so you should not take any risk at all. You say that you have come to love him. Remember, he is your brother and it is wrong for siblings to have sex with each other. If he tries to have sex with you again, don't be afraid to report him to your father.

Pastor