My husband took our son to a strip-club

I am 48, married, and I have three children - two girls and one boy. my husband has always been a good father to his children. A month ago, my son celebrated his 18th birthday and his father told him that he would take him out for his birthday. I asked where was he taking him, and he said he didn't have to tell me, it was a surprise.

They did not leave the house until 9:30 p.m. I stayed up and watched television until after 12 and they hadn't come back. They did not come home until early in the morning and the boy couldn't stand up straight. He was so drunk. I was angry and spoke to my husband hard and he spoke back to me hard.

Would you believe, pastor, that my husband took our son to a strip club? He said there was nothing wrong with that. The boy told his sisters what went on in the club, and at one time his father asked him if he wanted any of the girls.

I am angry because this is an educated man and I didn't expect that of him. If a man would take his son to that type of club, what does he expect the boy to do as he gets older?

Please tell me how you feel about what he did. I will be looking for your answer in The Star.

B.E.

Dear B.E.,

I suggest that you drop the argument. You have a good husband. You disagree with what he did. To him it was a big surprise for his son and he believes that the exposure to this type of life would be good for your son. I want you to understand that it is not unusual for some men to introduce their sons to these clubs. Others have done worse. What your husband did doesn't mean that your son will always go to the club.

Pastor