Can’t stop seeing my married boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old woman and I am writing to tell you how in love I am with this man who is married, and who has fathered three children.

We have been together for almost five years now. His wife knows about us because people told her, but she has never seen us together. To be honest, he is a wonderful man. He takes good care of his family, and also of me. There is nothing impossible for him to do for me. If he is purchasing slippers for me, he purchases two instead; one for me and one for his wife.

He really loves me and he is always there for me. He doesn't want me to have another man in my life. I know it is a sin, but I can't seem to find it in my heart to walk away from him.

Please give me your advice. Thank you.

L.M.

Dear L.M.,

You know that there is no future for this man and you to be together.

He is not your man, he belongs to someone else, but you are not willing to let him go because he has been a good man to you. He tells you that you ought not to have another man with him. But he knows that if you would like to get married and have a family of your own, you will have to have another man. But the decision is solely up to you. Just remember that this man's wife comes first in his life.

You are only 27 year old; you should be able to get a man. But you don't want to get a man of your own, because that would mean you would have to leave this man, and you want to get as much as you can out of him. You are wasting your time. So I say to you, wake up before it is too late, and do what is right.

Pastor