My boyfriend doesn’t talk to me much

Dear Pastor,

I am 26 and I am having a relationship with a man for the last two years. He is the only child for his parents.

He and I have been living together and at times I wonder where this relationship is going. Sometimes we are in the house together and he does not say a word to me. If I call him, he answers. If I want him to do anything for me, he does it, but he does not talk much. The happiest time for that man is when his two children from a previous relationship come to visit him. He laughs and they tell him all the stories that they can. So I asked him whether he is happy with me and he said yes. Then I asked him how is it that he doesn't appear to be happy when we are together. He said the children are his blood.

Sometimes I sit and watch television with him. He loves sports and I can't watch sports all the time. So he told me that he will buy me my own television. This man is always at home. He does not have many friends. He is a good man. He sees to it that all the bills are paid on time. If I say that I am not feeling well, he gives me money to go to the doctor, and if possible, he will take me. If he is unable to do so because of work, he calls a taxi to takes me to the doctor.

I do not have children. I beg him to get me pregnant, but he says nothing happens before the time. But at 26, I think my time has come. I have a sister who is 24 and she has twins. My boyfriend is 32. Sometimes I wish to know what is on his mind, but he does not communicate much with me. I am not going to leave him because before meeting him, I had a man and he used to chat like a woman. I could not stand him. Please tell me what I can do to get this man to talk to me. I will be looking for your answer in the newspaper.

P.E.

Dear P.E.,

There is a song that's says you talk too much. When I read your letter, I thought of the song.

I am not sure who wrote the song, but there are some people who talk too much. Your boyfriend doesn't talk much and for a good and happy relationship, a couple should learn to communicate with each other. Communication is like an unwritten rule in a home. When two people are together and communication has broken down, the marriage is in serious trouble. When you are a parent and you have a child, you have to teach that child to express him/herself. It is called communication.

Some men only talk to their women when they want to have sex. But even then, they don't say much. Some men, by nature, are very quiet. Others are very talkative. But women don't like men who talk too much and too many women talk to their men at the wrong time. When a man comes in from work tired, his woman should give him time to unwind and relax and not to burden him with unnecessary things. Choose the right time to communicate. But make sure you talk.

This gentleman enjoys talking to his children. He told you they are his blood; they are special to him. But you are also special to him because you are his woman. Don't force this man to talk; you will annoy him. You spend time with him; both of you watch television together. Some couples don't even do that much together. I am glad that both of you are not fighting and fussing. But it would be good to learn to communicate. He likes sports, so go out with him to see football matches. Enjoy life with him as much as you can.

Pastor