Husband can’t wait to get me pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am 30 years old and I have been in a relationship with a man my age.

We started together while I was at university. We shared classes together and assisted each other in assignments. I consider him to be a smart man. We never lived together although he slept at my place many times. He lives with his parents and siblings. I have never got pregnant because I was on the Pill. He knew where I kept my pills and from time to time, he asked me whether I had gone to see the doctor.

We had sexual intercourse at least once a week while we were studying. He is very strong and sometimes he had sex with me for a whole hour. I had to tell him that I was very tired, and asked him what he had been eating or drinking. He did not take chances. I never suspected him of having other women. Some of my girlfriends said that they wished to have a man like him.

We have been married for six months. My mother is urging me to try and have a child before I get older. I have a younger sister and she has two children. She said one was by mistake, because she was on the Pill also and she still got pregnant. She did not always take the Pill according to instructions, and that is why my man always asks me to check with my doctor.

My husband says some crazy things. He said he would like me to give birth to twins. I am sure I could not deal with that. There are twins in his family, so he would like to be able to brag that he is the father of twins. My gynaecologist says everything is in order with me, so she is expecting to hear that I am pregnant soon. My husband cannot wait for that to happen. He has been using a lot of herbal drinks. I told him that he is wasting his money on these things. He is trying to enhance his chances of getting me pregnant soon.

B.L.

Dear B.L.,

Some couples when they engage in lovemaking enjoy doing so for a long period.

A certain woman who was divorced from her husband found another man and got romantically involved with him. She said that this man had a very small penis, but he would 'kill' her with romance. So what he does not have, he makes up for with good romance.

She married him because she came to realise that size does not always matter. Some men have learned the art of controlling their ejaculation, while others have not. Those who can control their ejaculation are able to allow their women to experience orgasm several times before they ejaculate.

You should be happy that you have a man who makes you very satisfied before he ejaculates. Many women curse their men a lot when the men climax too soon. I don't know what these herbal people are giving your husband to drink. I am not here to curse any herbalist, but I always caution men about what they drink from herbalists and to talk to a medical practitioner about these drinks.

Pastor