I want to hide my outside child I want to hide my outside child I want to hide my outside child

Dear Pastor,

I have been supporting an outside child for the past 10 years. It has been a little tricky, but I have managed to get the hang of it, and I have avoided suspicion from my wife and her family members up until this point. It was just recently that my wife started to get suspicious when she saw the former housekeeper at a supermarket.

I am very light-skinned, and she noticed that the former housekeeper's daughter is also of light complexion and has a forehead similar to mine. I have denied the accusations from my wife over and over, but she has been relentless. She has even showed up at the former housekeeper's residence to question her.

Pastor, my wife is from a wealthy family and has done a lot for me. If she finds out that I got the housekeeper pregnant, she will divorce me and leave me with nothing. I want to fake a paternity test so she doesn't find out the truth. I am not asking for your approval, just your blessing and forgiveness from God. I mean, women give men jacket every day, so if I were to hide my outside child it would be justified.

O.

Dear O.,

Stop talking nonsense and tell your wife the truth. For 10 years you have kept her in the dark, but now she has come to realise that you are guilty of infidelity, and it has produced a child. You did your best to cover up this matter, but now your wife knows.

You need to be commended for supporting this child for the past 10 years. When this child has grown up, she may not have anything bad to say about you. She cannot say that you have neglected to support her. She may say that the closeness that she should have had with you as her father, she did not experience. But her mother would have a big part in trying to explain to her that that was to save your marriage. The guilt is not only on your side, but her side also.

Come clean with your wife. What was done cannot be undone. You made a big mistake by become sexually involved with your former housekeeper. Don't continue to cover up the mistake. I don't care how much wealth your wife's family may have, face this problem as a man. Don't do a fake paternity test. I will not give you my blessing to do something that is terrible wrong. I could promise you, however, that I will be praying for you. And I hope that your wife will forgive you, and that your marriage will be saved.

Pastor