My wife’s twin sister wants a threesome

Dear Pastor,

I am 26 years old and my wife is 27. She has a twin sister who is not married. My wife and her twin sister are very close. They are always hugging and playing together. My wife and I have one child. Whatever I discuss with my wife, she tells her sister. However, something shocked me recently. I found out that my wife's twin sister asked her permission to join us in bed. I asked my wife what her response to that and she was said she told her sister that she would have to ask me.

I cannot believe that this girl would want me to have sex with her and her sister at the same time. We have always got along well, but I have never thought of having sex with her. She told my wife that that has been her fantasy. But what has also surprised me is that my wife did not strongly object to the request.

My wife and I have had a beautiful marriage. She would not want me to go to any other woman, but now she seems to want to give consent for her sister to join us in bed for a threesome. She is laughing about it, and I can tell you I am disappointed in her. My wife's sister had a boyfriend, and he is now studying in the United States of America. He has not been to Jamaica for more than a year. I will not take his place. I do not know if you would consider me a fool for not agreeing to go to bed with my wife's sister.

F.

Dear F.,

You did not mention whether your sister-in-law is living in the same house with your wife and yourself. You say your wife and your sister-in-law are very close and they are always playing together. That does not surprise me, because most twins get along very well, and they carry secrets for each other. I suppose that is one reason why your wife's sister felt that she can tell your wife how she feels about you having sex with her.

Your wife should have rebuked her. It is not a matter to be taken as a joke, because your sister-in-law means every word she says. It is not a joke. If you were to give consent, probably all three of you would have ended up in bed already. It is unlikely that that would be a one-occasion matter. She probably would like it so much that she would want it to be done regularly; brother, that is trouble.

I asked whether your sister-in-law is living with your wife and yourself because perhaps she feels very jealous when she sees both of you hugging up and carrying on. She thinks that she is missing something. So perhaps your wife and you should not do anything that may cause her to feel jealous. Restrict your lovemaking to your bedroom if she is living at your house. And if she is living there, you can tell her that she should find another place to live.

Pastor