Extra loving to keep my husband from straying

Dear Pastor,

I am 35 years old. I am married and I have three children; two boys and one girl. My husband got involved with another woman and I found out.

This girl wanted me to know that she is with my man. She sends some rude text messages to him, including photographs of her vagina. I was going through his phone and saw them. He told me it was a big mistake. He keeps his phone locked, but that day I asked him to allow me to use his phone to call someone. He casually handed the phone to me; I did not expect to see what I saw. I asked my husband what time he has to play around with another woman. He said she is just a friend and I shouldn't make that bother me. But it does bother me.

This girl is a Jamaican model and she has a super body. I know he would go after her. My sister told me never to trust a man, and I am learning from her. I do not hold back when it comes to sex; I give it to my husband any time, even when I am tired. Sometimes when he goes into the shower, I go in there with him and I soap him up; and before we leave that bathroom, we would have had sex sometimes twice. Since I discovered these pictures in his phone, I don't give him a time to rest. I give him much more than he desires.

I know I have not been careless in the past, but some of these girls only want married men. To be truthful, my husband has a free hand, but I will not allow this girl to take him away from me without a fight.

Y.S.

Dear Y.S.,

Try your best to keep your husband. He has not given you any good reasons why this woman sent him pictures of her private parts. She might have been saying, 'come and get me', or 'I am available'.

She knows that he is a married man. You are not even sure that your husband has gone to bed with this woman. You write as if you doubt that very much. Your sister says that you should not trust any man. I know what she is trying to say. She is telling you that anything is possible if you become careless with your man.

Now that you have found out what's happening, tell your husband that you would want the both of you to make an appointment to see a family counsellor to discuss the relationship. If you just walk away from your husband, that is what this woman would want. She would take him over, and your husband would interpret your walking away from him as giving him permission to go with this woman.

Pastor