Regret sleeping with my grandmother’s friend

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 and I was living in the country, but nothing was going on there for me, so I came to Kingston.

I am now living with my grandmother. She has a friend who lost her husband some years ago. She is in her 70s. She has a daughter, who lives at the house, but most times she is at her boyfriend's house. I do everything for this lady. She had a gardener and since I am around, she doesn't use him any more. I cut the yard and she pays me.

Whenever she wants to go to the supermarket, she calls a taxi. I accompany her and the person who takes her around. One day she asked me if I had a girlfriend and I told her yes. She told me that she was going to take me away from my girlfriend because my girlfriend can't do anything for me.

In December, she took me to a store and bought me two nice shirts and two pairs of pants. She also gave me money. When my grandmother saw what she gave to me, she called her and asked her what was so special about me that she had to spend so much money on me. She told my grandmother that she should be ashamed of herself to be thinking that she wanted to go to bed with her grandson. My grandmother asked me if I wanted to go back to work there and I told her it was better to work there than to sit at home. I gave my grandmother $5,000 and I put away $5,000 for my girlfriend.

I went to the country and gave my girlfriend the money, but I kept the rest of money in my pocket. When I was returning to Kingston, I gave my mother $5,000. This woman kept calling me and telling me that I should hurry and get back to Kingston because she misses me. When I got back to Kingston, my grandmother told me that all this woman was doing was talking about me, so I should not go back to her house. I went back, and every night she wanted me to stay over.

This woman asked me to have sex with her. I told her no because I have my girlfriend; she said she would pay me for doing so. I did it to her and she made noise like a cat. When I heard her making those sounds, I stopped. She asked me if something was wrong and I told her no. When I went home the following day, I told my grandmother that I would not go back, but this woman keeps calling me. She and my grandmother are no longer good friends because my grandmother called her and told her that she should go and look for Harry. That was the name of the man who she was having a relationship with after her husband died.

I feel sorry for telling my grandmother that this woman got me to have sex with her.

F.P.

Dear F.P.,

There are many lonely senior citizens, and many have got involved with single men.

Some single men treat them well, but some do not. I might have mentioned in my column some time ago that a woman asked me to help her find a husband, and after she left my office, she returned within a few minutes and cautioned me by saying, "Pastor, I do not want an old man."

Some female senior citizens live off their pensions, which are substantial. They have their boyfriends and they share their pension money with these young men. Some children discourage their parents from getting involved with men after their spouses have passed on. But some women don't listen.

Your grandmother told you not to go back to this woman's house, and she was very unhappy with her. I hope that you would keep away from her.

Pastor