Younger husband is tiring me out in bed

Dear Pastor,

I am 45 years old and my husband is 35. When I started dating him, some of my female friends used to mock me and asked me if I could keep up with a man who is younger than I was.

I used to curse them, and I told them that it was because they were jealous. There was no position that that man put me in that I could not do. I could have gone a mile-long journey without feeling tired or exhausted. But now, I get very tired and I can hardly keep up with him.

I used to always make excuses and tell him that I was overworked, so he told me that he understood what I was going through and he would always love me and not cheat on me. We reduced our lovemaking from three times during the week to one time for the week and twice on weekends. Every once in a while during the week, I used to wake him and tell him that I needed his love, and then we had a go at it. He usually started out slowly, but then he always got vigorous. By the time I reach my orgasm, I have to remind myself that this man is younger than I am. But I love him so much; I always want to please him. He never complains.

Do you think that he will get involved with other women? He is a handsome man and I really love him.

E.S.

Dear E.S.,

Your husband and you seem to communicate very well, so you should continue to do so. He is not complaining.

You know you have slowed down, but he is aware of that, too. You need not fret. Continue to do your very best to please him. Don't worry about him going to other women; sex is not the only thing that keeps a man at home. Some men get an abundance of sex and still go astray. Give this man tender, loving care. Take care of him in every way and he will reciprocate. It is unwise for you to wake this man up when he is resting and encourage him to have sex with you. You need all the rest you can get. You know you are not very young again, but at the same time, you are not an old woman.

I hear some women in their 60s bragging about what they can do in bed with their men; don't listen to their nonsense. Do what you can do. This man will tell you whether he is satisfied. Read good books. Learn what it is to romance a man. It is not the very act of sex that is important. What a woman does to a man before the sexual act is very important; and likewise, what a man does to a woman before he inserts his penis into her vagina is super important. I could say much more, but I will not. I will be happy to hear from you again.

Pastor