This man is in a hurry to marry me

Dear Pastor,

I am 21 years old and my fiance is 29. He was married but he is now divorced. He lives in America, but he is Jamaica-born.

I was visiting my relatives in America and they introduced me to him. He is Caucasian. He has fathered two children, but they live with their mother. When I met him, he told me that he loved me. He wanted to know whether I had anybody in my life. I was not very interested in him, so I told him I was taken. He told one of my cousins how disappointed he was to hear that I had a man. My cousin told him he should not give up so easy, and she told me that he would make me very happy, and he is not poor.

He invited me out again, and I loosened up and allowed him to kiss me. That was a big mistake because that evening, he told me he wanted me to see where he lives and I agreed to go. I ended up at his house. It was the house in which he lived with his wife. He brought documents to me and showed me that that house was given to him by his parents before he was married, so it has remained his. He called my cousin and told her that I agreed to stay with him that night. We had no such agreement, but I laughed about it. We had sex that night and before he took me home the following day, he took me to the store and bought me lots of clothes.

He was very gentle with me, but I was nervous. When he was having difficulty penetrating me, he used other means of getting me ready. When he dropped me home, my cousin and her husband applauded. I was a little embarrassed, because I did not realise that I would have given myself over to this man so soon. I have not met his children, but I plan to go back to America next month to be with him, and we may get married at that time.

I told my cousin that we are moving too fast. She said if I am too slow, I will lose him because she knows that there are girls who are after him. The night before I left America, he gave me US$2,000; no man has ever given me that much money, and we talk on the phone every day. I ask myself, is this infatuation or true love? I believe I have found true love in this man.

P.P.

Dear P.P.,

I hope that it is true love indeed, and I hope that your cousin will help you to make good decisions.

The relationship has developed very fast, but I hope that everything will go well for you. There are other things you have said but I cannot publish. If indeed this man and you should get married, and you move to the United States of America, please go back to school. This is all I am going to say at this moment.

Pastor