Found true love with my disabled boyfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am 24 years old and I am living with a man who is disabled. When some of my friends became aware that I was in love with this man, they questioned me.

Some said that we are together because he has money. He is 51 years old. But my friends are wrong. I was not drawn to this man because of his wealth. I started working with him and he treated me well, and we fell in love. I can say that this is true love. I have learnt to take care of him. I did practical nursing. This man earns enough to take care of all his bills, including paying me. He comes from a very good family and his siblings talk to him every week. They also encourage him to take care of me. Sometimes when they talk to me, they want me to tell them if he is as happy as he tells them he is, and I tell them yes. Every holiday they send me extra money. Since I have been here, this man has opened a special account and put my name on it.

You may wonder if he can manage a girl like me, but he does very well. I will never go with an able-bodied man, because such a man might not treat me as well as this man who is disabled. He does not have children, and neither do I. I am not interested in getting pregnant, either. I do not believe that he is fooling me, but he told me that what he has would go to me and two of his nieces, but I will have to learn to behave myself. Yes, Pastor, we do have sex; his disability does not prevent him from being active that way.

He does not always have to go to see the doctor; the doctor comes to our place. I have noticed that the doctor is eyeing me, but he will not have a chance with me.

B.L.

Dear B.L.,

Your friends believe that it is unusual for a young girl like you to settle with a disabled man.

But you love him and you are quite content to be his woman. He takes care of you and he pays you well. The relationship did not start because you were seeking his money. Perhaps you should seriously consider marrying him. If he does not propose to you at all, you should raise the matter and see how he would react. Continue to take care of him.

You haven't said anything about attending church; I hope that he is not anti-god. I wish both of you well.

Pastor