Walked in on my roommate having sex

Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old girl and a university student. I came into the city and was looking for a place to live.

Two girls I know who are also at university were sharing an apartment, but it was very hard on them and they told me that I could live with them and we would split the rent. There are two rooms.

I told my parents that I would like to stay there. One of the rooms is bigger than the other, so it can hold two beds, so my father bought a bed for me.

My roommate has a boyfriend and sometimes he comes and sleeps at the house, in the same room. Whenever he is there, I go to the other girl's room and stay with her, but I told my roommate that I don't appreciate that. I have walked in on her having sex with her boyfriend and it was very embarrassing. She told me that I can bring my boyfriend anytime. I do not have a boyfriend, but if I had one, I would not allow him to sleep with me in the same room where she is.

I am not pretending as if I am a saint because two years ago, I gave up my virginity. I regret doing so. But I have been trying to be a good Christian girl. The other young lady and I spoke to the roommate, because I told them that I am not going to stay; I am going to look somewhere else to live. The other young lady said since I am there, it has been easier for them because we split the bills.

This girl whose boyfriend sleeps with her in the same room doesn't have any shame, because that night when I walked in on them having sex, they did not even stop. He did not leave that night; he slept with her and I had to sleep in the other girl's room. The other girl also has a boyfriend, but she does not allow him to sleep with her.

The owner of the apartment does not live on the compound.

I can't even tell my father why I want to move, but I really don't want to stay. My roommate told me that she would not have her boyfriend sleep there any more. He is in the army. I understand that she is afraid of him.

As I said before, I am not a saint but some of these girls who are studying are very loose; they are promiscuous. They do different things to get money to support their lifestyle.

Some of them asked me why I am moving from such a nice place, but I have not told them the reason. I am looking for a place where I can board. I think that would be better. But my parents used to board me out when I was younger and I didn't enjoy it at all.

What do you think I should do?

O.P.

Dear O.P.,

It is unfortunate that the young woman you shared a bedroom with is immoral. She should have known that she should not have allowed her boyfriend to have sexual intercourse with her in the same room.

But I know that students from other universities have allowed guys to come into their rooms and to have sex with them. That is really not right.

You need to get out of that place and try and find another place to live. Get going on that before the new school year begins. If you start early, you may be able to live on campus. I don't know how that goes, but check that out.

I hope you will have a good place to live and that you will be able to focus on your schoolwork.

I wish you well.

Pastor