I fell for my co-worker - Now his babymother wants me to lose my job

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I do security work and I have been with the company for about two years.

I was trained to do this type of work. It is not a very large company, but we respect each other here. I do not have children, but I have a man in my life and we have a visiting arrangement. Sometimes he stays at my place and sometimes I go to his place. But since I started working with this company, I have fallen in love with a co-worker. He is very good to me. He is kind and loving. He knows how to talk to a woman.

Rumour has it that I am a homewrecker. They say that this man is living with his woman and I am taking him away from her. When I started talking to this man, I did not know that he was living with his woman and child. I was in need and I asked him for some money and he gave me a $50,000 loan. When we became close, he told me I did not have to give him back that money; I should keep it. I asked him if he was sure and he told me yes. He told me there are many ways a man can get back the money that he gives to a woman.

Somebody texted his babymother and told her about us. She has threatened me that if I do not leave her man, she is going to make me lose my job. What she doesn't know is that she is messing with the wrong person. This man is now looking for a place for both of us to live. He is going to give her up for me. I don't like what he is doing and saying, but I find myself unable to stop loving him. I love him more now than when I started working at the company. I didn't go after this man, he came after me. He said I am irresistible.

He wants me to have a child for him. I told him he would have to marry me first. If we start living together, I can go and work at another company. We wouldn't have to work in the same company. This girl is ignorant. I did not go after her man, he came at me, and I don't feel guilty about anything.

S.W.

Dear S.W.,

Let me ask you this question. What happened to the man with whom you had a visiting relationship?

Have you broken up with him? I don't believe everything you have said in your letter. You say you did not go after this man, he came to you. But he must have been a very good friend and someone you felt comfortable to ask for a loan of $50,000. To some people, that is not much money, but to people working in your field of work, $50,000 is plenty of money. What I am trying to say is that I believe that you have been encouraging this man to leave the woman with whom he is living. You have taken him over and you must remember that what goes around comes back around.

When the man told you that you didn't have to give him back the money you borrowed from him, because there are many ways a man can get back money that he gives to a woman, you should know that he meant that he can work you to death. That means wash for him, cook for him, and clean for him, or he can bed you to death.

I cannot encourage you in this relationship. Give back this man his money and tell him to stay with his woman.

Pastor