Convinced my father-in-law raped me

Dear Pastor,

Good day to you and all who work with you. I am a regular reader of your column.

My boyfriend introduced it to me while I was in high school. I got to love it. I visited your church and you shook my hand at the end of the service. But now I am having a serious problem. To some people it may not be a problem, but I know it is and I cannot sleep.

I went to spend a weekend with my boyfriend. He is living with his parents. My boyfriend had to go to work on the Friday night. His mother cooked and offered us dinner. Then his father told me how much he always admired me. I told him, "Thank you." He said I should try not to have any more children until his son and I are married. I told him we do not plan to have any more. My little daughter had fallen asleep, so I put her to bed.

My mother-in-law said she was going to bed. My father-in-law and I were watching TV. This man offered me a drink that he had mixed. I drank all of it. My head started to feel light. I remember he picked me up and took me to my room and put me on the bed. I couldn't resist him. This man had sex with me. I know he did. I did not even know when my boyfriend came home and came to bed. My boyfriend asked me how come I was so wet down there. He felt me and I was so wet. I was afraid to tell him that his father raped me.

I asked his father what he did to me and he said nothing. I am writing this letter and I am shaking. Suppose this man had got me pregnant. He drugged me and had sex with me. I think about what happened every day.

Should I tell my boyfriend about it? What do you suggest? I trusted this man.

K.N.

Dear K.N.,

There are many wicked people in this world. They do not have any standards, and their aim is to satisfy their sexual cravings at all times.

You are not to be blamed for anything. This man is a dirty beast. You want to know whether you should tell your boyfriend. You will have to make that decision on your own. The risk is high.

Pastor