Sleeping with my friend’s dad

Dear Pastor,

I am 18 and I was living at home, but I got pregnant and had to leave. The babyfather is much older.

I met another man who has a daughter who is my age and she is my very good friend. This man does deliveries with his truck. He told his daughter that he liked me and he would give me any money to have sex with me. I couldn't imagine that this man would tell his daughter that. She told me that I should tell him yes, but he would have to pay me.

One day he held my hand and squeezed it, and then he tickled my palm and told me he was ready whenever I was ready. I told him that I needed some money and he asked me how much. I told him I had seen a few things that I would like to buy and I would like to dress up for a wedding, so everything would come up to about $51,000. He said he would give me $35,000 and if everything was up to his satisfaction, I could always get more.

I told his daughter what we talked about and she said she knew that her father loves women because he had a girlfriend her age. So when I am having sex with him, I should give him some dirty wine. Pastor, I am not a bad girl but I have been having sex from I was 13. I am from the ghetto, and ghetto girls are not easy. My friend's father and I went to a motel. I sponged him down and massaged him. I put oil on him and I went down on him first and he 'popped off'. After that, he couldn't do anything, so he fell asleep. After he awoke, we had sex. He was fully satisfied. I laughed at him and told him that I thought he was stronger, but he enjoyed the joke too, and told me I deserved the money. I told him that was middle of the week sex, weekend sex is more expensive. I gave his daughter $5,000 out of the money. She asked her father if he had got through to me to have sex with me and he told her no, he was planning for the weekend. We do not plan to go back to the same place.

This man does not live with a woman. He says he told his daughter that he prefers to buy sex from prostitutes. He has everything to his convenience at the house such as a washing machine and dryer. A lady cleans once a week. This girl cooks dinner for her father twice per week and he buys food in restaurants.

When I go to this man's house, I can sleep over. Anything I want, I get it from him. You may wonder why we go to a motel to have sex. He said he doesn't want his daughter to hear us, but she doesn't care.

H.W.

Dear H.W.,

I have been writing this column for many years and almost every week I learn something new from people who send me letters.

For example, I was not aware that people who sell sex charge more on weekends. I remember a couple of gentlemen came to my office and one of them declared that he makes a budget every week, and he puts aside $10,000 for prostitutes. I asked him why and he said it was cheaper to go to prostitutes than to have a wife. That sounded crazy to me.

I know that it is expensive to maintain a home, but it has been proven that married men live longer, and the benefits of being married are greater than those of living a single life. This man that you got involved with is excited ab0ut having you as his lover. His daughter is encouraging you too. How long is she going to do so? She considers her father to be very hot and you want his money. However, I cannot encourage you to practise this lifestyle. One of these days, his daughter may turn away from you and the friendship may break up.

You need to go to school; you need to get a skill. Would this man ever marry you? Would his daughter ever consider you to be a stepmother? I doubt that very much because both of you are in the same age group and you are friends. This man may not tell you how he totally feels about you, but he probably sees you as a whore.

Pastor