Girlfriend is too wild in bed for me

Dear Pastor,

I am in my late 20s, and I am living with my girlfriend. She is two years younger than me.

Sometimes I find it difficult to control her in bed. We have been together for a year and six months. Sometimes I wonder what I have got myself into. She was living with her sister, but they went their own way because her sister could not keep one man. Men used to come to the house all the time. They were in and out, and some neighbours used to have bad things to say about her. She said that her sister used to charge these men for sex. Although she had her own room, she was not comfortable sharing the apartment with her sister.

Her sister would have a man in her room, and they would be having sex while another man was waiting for his turn. She couldn't cope with that. Her sister was very smart. She could have got jobs, but she declared that she was not ready to go and work for anybody. So this woman left and moved in with me.

She is working and she doesn't ask me for anything, not even for money to go to the hairdresser. But she does not cook, so I have to be spending a lot of money on fast food. She must have learnt a lot from her sister when it comes to sex, because when we are in bed, she has multiple orgasms before I ejaculate. I am wondering what to do with her. She calls me "soft".

I would love to settle down, but I am afraid that it would not be with this woman because I can't control her.

E.D.

Dear E.D.,

Some 'rude boys' would say that you have all the luck. The kind of woman you are living with is what some men would really want, but I wonder how you can manage living with this woman while living on fast food.

You are not feeding on anything that would nourish your body. What I want to find out from you is, can't you cook your own meals for the both of you? I am afraid to tell you the truth: you have a bad woman. If you want the woman to be your wife, you should have made a better choice. You have to learn that there are certain criteria that you should have when you are looking for a wife. It does not seem to me that you have the time for that. So I would suggest that you walk away from this relationship.

On the other hand, if you think that she can change, both of you should make an appointment to see a family counsellor, who would tell her what her responsibilities are to her man. My friend, don't tell anybody what her sister does, because it is quite clear that she is operating a whorehouse.

Pastor