Rich boyfriend can’t satisfy me in bed

Dear Pastor,

I am 22 and I am seeing someone but I cannot get over my previous two-year relationship.

My present boyfriend is a good man and he treats me well. But, when it comes to sex, I have to salute my past boyfriend. My present boyfriend is 27 and he is in business with his father. His family is well known and, since his father got to know me, he raised my boyfriend's pay by $500,000. He told my boyfriend that the money was given to him because he needs to take very good care of me, his woman. But, because of the books, he would have to add it on to his pay. So, every month, my boyfriend gives me $400,000. I told him that he is a robber because I should have $500,000. He said he is keeping the $100,000 in an account for the both of us.

Imagine getting this kind of money from a man? I never got that sort of money from my previous boyfriend, but what he gave me was sexual satisfaction. One day we were in his room having sex and I totally forgot that his parents were at home. When I reached orgasm, I bawled out. He had to stuff my mouth with the sheet. I know that his parents heard us because his mother said something to me. While both of us were in the kitchen, she teased me and said "Mi hear you bawl last night" and I responded by saying no, I must have been dreaming, and she laughed.

You may ask why I left this man if I used to be satisfied with him in bed. I left him because I found out that he impregnated a high-school girl. At first, he told me that it wasn't true, but people who knew him and knew that we were together gave the girl my number; she called and told me everything. She also told me where they had sex. He eventually admitted it, so I left him because I lost confidence in him.

This guy that I am with now is not Jamaican; neither are his parents. He likes to profile with me. He does not like me speaking Patios when I am among his friends. I love this man, but I miss sexual satisfaction. He told me that, if I am not sexual satisfied, I would either cheat or buy a sex toy. I told him that I would not cheat on him, but I would consider buying sex toys to help myself until he is able to satisfy me with his penis. I did not know that I would speak so openly to you about these things. I hope you will not hold that against me. I know you wouldn't because, as a counsellor, that is part of the reason why you are in that position. You are a teacher to all of us.

T.D.

Dear T.D.,

First of all, I am happy to know that you have found your present boyfriend to be a good man, and that his parents love you.

You are indeed very fortunate. I am racking my brain and asking myself "Have I ever heard of any father-in-law giving his son half a million dollars every month to support his girlfriend?" That is a substantial amount of money. He has to be a very wealthy man. I hope that you are not spending the money foolishly.

Concerning the matter of not being satisfied sexually, I want to remind you that a good relationship is not built only on sex. I don't want you to feel that I am a fool. You know what you want and that sex plays a big part, especially when a couple is married. Your man made a suggestion to you, so I do not have to tell you to reject it or accept it. I hope that you and this man would get married very soon. I wish both of you well.

Pastor