You should never have searched his phone!

Dear Pastor

I am a 21. I am involved with a 49-year-old man. I am staying at his house. I have friends in his area. The other day one of my friends and I were talking and she mentioned that my boyfriend has a

2-y-o child. My relationship with my boyfriend would be one year older than this child. I asked him about the child and he said that it was a lie because his youngest child is eight.

I decided to do my own investigation. One night I searched his phone and saw that he was in some intimate conversations with four different women. A specific one said, "You and your woman can stay at your house, because my child and I won't come there." I screenshot all of the messages and sent them to my phone. In the morning, I sent him screenshots and asked him what was going on. He replied, "Babe, that is nothing. They are nobody." Pastor, I don't know whether I should believe this man. Please tell me what to do.

D.D.

Dear D.D.,

Serve you right. The answer from this man is very appropriate. You had absolutely no right to go through his phone. True, he should have told you the truth but you ought not to have searched his phone and to screenshot his messages. You are out of order. Curse me if you want. I am just telling you as it is. I consider you a dangerous woman. You would consider yourself very wise. Always remember that if you want a man to love you and wash your feet, practise proper ethics. Men always lie but they are not as good at it as women, so most times they are found out. Wise women don't have to do dirty tricks to find out the truth from them. This man will never trust you again because you are a searcher, and no one likes a person who searches his property.

Pastor