My wife may be cheating

Dear Pastor,

I have three children with my wife of 15 years. She had one before we got married. My wife has not given up on the relationship she had with her first child's father. I know he calls her. That does not bother me because they are always talking about their daughter. The daughter lives in America and is attending college. My wife went to America to visit her relatives. I understand from a good source that she and this man went out many times. It is her sister who told me my wife was giving me 'bun'.

My wife denied that she went out with this man alone. She said someone was with her and nothing went on. She suggests that I ask her daughter if she slept with her father. I don't want to bring her daughter into this. It is bothering me, pastor, because I have never been unfaithful to this woman and both of us have a good relationship. Should I ask her daughter about it? Keep up your good work, pastor.

T.O.

Dear T.O.,

I would say that your wife's sister has some sort of motive why she reported her sister to you. The question is whether she spoke the truth. I must warn you to remember that although they are sisters, it does not mean that whatever she says to you is true. Why would your wife jeopardise the good relationship that both of you have had over the years for a few moments of pleasure? I am only asking. I am not saying that she would not do so.

I don't know if the two sisters get along well. Perhaps she would not mind seeing both of you having a bad relationship. I would not encourage you to ask your stepdaughter whether her mother slept with her father. Give your wife the benefit of the doubt in this matter.

Pastor