My girlfriend wants to see her ex on the side

Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old young man and I have a girlfriend who is 18. She is always accusing me of having other girlfriends.

I told her that I have girlfriends, but I do not have sex with them. She is having a problem in accepting that I only have sex with her. I almost had sex with another girl, but I stopped after I kissed her and she told me that she was a virgin and she tried very hard not to lose her virginity and now she is about to give it to me and I have a girlfriend. I felt guilty, so I did not continue to take off her clothes. That is the closest I have got to another girl.

I am involved in sports; I play a lot of football. My girlfriend says that all young men who love sports are cheaters. I do not know where she got that from, but I have never cheated on her. She told me she started to have sex when she was 16 and it was with a big man. He used to pick her up on weekends and she used to spend the whole weekend with him because his wife and children are living in America. When we started to have sex, she complained that this man was larger than I am, so something is wrong with me. She was the first girl who had oral sex with me and she used to stretch my penis.

We have been together for one year; she is always in need of money. I don't have much money to give her because I have to help my mother and my sister. I asked her why she has to have money from me every week and she said because she wants to look good all the time. I do not want to lose this girl, but she wants too much from me and she doesn't believe what I tell her.

This man she was with wants her back because his wife is leaving again for America. She told me that I can still see her during the week, but she will stay with him on weekends. I can get some of the money he will give to her. I do not know what to do. Should I let this girl go? I don't want my girlfriend to be sleeping with another man every week. I cannot deal with that so give me your advice.

S.F.

Dear S.F.,

End the relationship with this girl. She is likely to get pregnant by this man or by another man and then say you are responsible for getting her pregnant. This is a girl who cannot be satisfied. She has got you to love her, but I have to tell you that she is not a good girl.

The older man would be glad to have her back in his life because she gives him 'kicks'. He knows that she loves money and he can afford to support her. Break up this relationship and keep out of her way.

Pastor