Convinced my wife has tied me

Dear Pastor,

I am a 41-year-old man. I wrote to you a couple of years ago and told you about my problem.

You told me to call a counsellor and make an arrangement for my wife and I to see him. I was willing to go to see him, but my wife was not. A relative of mine took me to see a 'mother' for a reading. This woman didn't know me at all, but she was able to tell me lots of things that happened in the past between my wife and I, and what is happening now. Everything she told me is true. She charged me $21,000, but if I should go back to see her, I would have to pay more money. She told me that I should stop eating certain foods from my wife, especially rice and chicken back. She also told me to leave my wife. I have tried many times to leave, but something is holding me back.

My wife is working with somebody to keep me in the house. She has told me to my face that I can't leave her and she has the power to destroy me. I don't want to destroy my wife; I just want to leave and be free. We have a nice home and we have two children; one boy and one girl. She has poisoned my son against me, but she has not succeeded in poisoning the girl against me.

This woman is a big churchgoer, but she is a hypocrite. I do not drink anything that she puts in the refrigerator. I love ice cream, but I have been warned to not touch it. How can I remain in this present situation? Before I met her, I had a relationship with another woman. She is still single and wants me back, but my wife is not setting me free. She has tied me up. I want to be free.

M.J.

Dear M.J.,

It is unfortunate that you have taken $21,000 and thrown it away to this so-called 'mother', who, according to you, is a very powerful woman.

If you continue to see this woman, she will get all that she wants out of you and you would still be living with your spouse. How is it that you guys are not behaving as if you are intelligent? You said this woman told you everything that happened between your wife and you. If she was so powerful, she should have told you what to do to walk away from your wife. In other words, she should have broken the cords that your wife has used to tie you. What she told you is foolishness. I know you believe her, and I am sure that you are going to curse me for not believing what she told you. Sir, money is precious; stop wasting your money.

The woman is little and smart; she wants you to come back and see her, but you would have to take more money. I am not saying here that you are not having problems in your relationship. But I don't believe that your wife has tried to tie you. Stop talking nonsense and stop wasting money on 'mothers' and obeah men.

Learn to pray and fast, and you will be a happy man.

Pastor